Content of the material
- Here are five life-changing decisions you should take in your 20s if you want to live a happy and meaningful life
- 1. Set your priorities in life
- 2. Quit the job you hate and stick to what you love doing
- 3. Get people and things you don’t like out of your life
- 4. Take care of your health
- 4. Tell Others About Your Decisions
- cisions about your Relationship with Sexual Energy in Adulthood
- 19. Drove with a friend:
- 2. Go with Your Gut
- 7. Coca-Cola
- but don’t overthink
- 6. Went to a bar:
- Volunteer abroad
- Sweet Cafe
- 3. Your Relationship with Food
- Summary: How to Change Your Life for the Better
- 4. Make peace with your decision
- 2. Netflix
- Focus on your future happiness
Here are five life-changing decisions you should take in your 20s if you want to live a happy and meaningful life
1. Set your priorities in life
In your mid-20s, you begin to realize what matters most to you, and the path towards your life purpose unfolds in front of you. If right after the college you were confused and uncertain about what you wanted from life, now the things become much clearer.
Different people are meant for different life roles, and you need to find yours. Some people make a successful career, others are meant to become great parents and some other people live to make the world a better place.
Whatever your highest priority in life is, it’s time to focus on it and devote more time and energy to the things that truly matter to you, before it’s too late. It’s sad when at some point people realize they have devoted their whole life to the things they never really cared about.
2. Quit the job you hate and stick to what you love doing
“And then there is the most dangerous risk of all — the risk of spending your life not doing what you want on the bet you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later.”
― Randy Komisar
Our education system forces us to make life-changing decisions about our career at a ridiculously young age. So it’s no surprise that later it turns out the field of study you chose in your 18 is not what you wanted. As a result of these poor life choices, many people end up hating their boring job, annoying colleagues, demanding boss and get frustrated with their lives in general.
But it’s never too late to make a career change and, in fact, it’s much better to do it in your 20s than to live a life of regrets. Moreover, now when you are still young, it will be much easier for you to change your daily routine and adapt to a new working environment.
Of course, it’s probable that you still don’t know what job would suit you and make you happy. Your childhood memories may help you with this – try asking yourself the following questions: What did you enjoy doing when you were a kid? What did you want to be when you grew up? What were your hobbies and talents?
3. Get people and things you don’t like out of your life
It doesn’t matter what the hell it is… whether it’s a relationship, a lifestyle, a habit or a job —if it doesn’t make you happy, LET IT GO.
As years go by, you realize that there is no point in spending your precious time and energy on someone/something that doesn’t bring you joy. Do you hang up with negative and toxic people or sacrifice your personal time for the things you don’t enjoy? It’s time to stop doing what others want and start listening to yourself.
When you are going to meet a friend/relative/colleague of yours and feel like it’s more of a social obligation than a genuine desire for communication, then this person probably doesn’t have a place in your life. Of course, it’s much more difficult to do when it comes to the people you work with, but you always can limit your communication with negative people to professional topics.
4. Take care of your health
Now when you are still young, you may feel great and have no health issues. However, everything that comes in contact with your body now – the food you eat, the hygiene products you use, the air you breathe – will inevitably affect your health in some years from now. Just think how much poison you consume every day through low-quality foods, toxic substances and polluted air.
You can’t do much about the environment you live in, but you can make healthier choices in food and lifestyle. Some of the numerous ways to do it are buying organic fruit and vegetables, quitting smoking, using natural cosmetics and hygiene products, doing some exercise.
Choose a healthy lifestyle now and you will thank yourself later.
4. Tell Others About Your Decisions
There’s something about telling other people what we’re going to do that makes us follow through.
For example, for the longest time, I’ve been trying to become an early riser. Whenever I tried to use my own willpower, waking up early without falling back asleep felt impossible. So what I did was I went to a forum and made the decision to tell people that I would wake up at 6 AM and stay up. Within two days, I was able to accomplish doing this because I felt a moral obligation to follow through with my words even though I failed the first time.
Did people care? Probably not, but just the fact that there might be someone else out there seeing if you’re telling the truth will give you enough motivation to following through with your decision.
cisions about your Relationship with Sexual Energy in Adulthood
Life is peculiar. Any issues we might have, tend to constellate in the area of sexuality.
Try as we might to appear perfect in our everyday lives, shame, repression, and evasion will still present themselves in the sexual part of our lives.
Sexuality is an earthly system of energy that provides us with an opportunity to discover who we truly are and witness all the many aspects of ourselves.
Though sex doesn’t have to be a part of every person’s life in adulthood, for most of us sensuality is a vital aspect of our earthly experience.
In this sense, every adult within a committed relationship has a responsibility to be the best lover they can be and to continually improve.
This is a decision one makes. It doesn’t happen on its own.
19. Drove with a friend:
“A friend asked if I’d drive with her to pick up her friend at LAX so she could drive in the carpool lane. I said yes.
“I asked her friend to marry me six months later. We have two kids and have been married for 10 years now!”
2. Go with Your Gut
Often times, we take too much time to make a decision because we’re afraid of what’s going to happen. As a result of this, we go through things like careful planning, deep analysis, and pros and cons before deciding. This is a very time consuming process.
Instead, learn to trust your gut instinct. For the most part, your first instinct is usually the one that is correct or the one that you truly wanted to go with.
Even if you end up making a mistake, going with your gut still makes you a more confident decision maker compared to someone who takes all day to decide.
Perhaps no organisation has been through change management challenges quite like the Coca-Cola Company. One example is from the 1980s when bitter rivals Pepsi started to aggressively target Coca-Cola.
In response, the latter released New Coke – a sweeter version of its classic drink.
New Coke wasn’t a success and didn’t appeal to the public. Coca-Cola wasted no time in replacing it with the older formula. Here, the brand was able to respond quickly to consumer preferences so that the product’s appeal was maintained.
It even stretches as far back as World War II. By offering free drinks to soldiers, Coca-Cola quickly marketed itself as a symbol of the US war effort. At the same time, it boosted brand recognition in destination countries that allied forces were occupying. During this process, Coca-Cola cemented its presence through 64 extra manufacturing sites across the world.
This accelerated the company’s post-war global expansion strategy.
These are just some of the change management examples which show how Coca-Cola manages to stay ahead of the curve. To respond to greater health consciousness, Coca-Cola released Enviga, Diet Coke and Coca-Cola Zero to appeal to this target market. Then during the Asian financial crisis, the organisation pursued an acquisition strategy to better deal with consumer preferences.
By reacting quickly and acting proactively in anticipation of changing trends, it’s clear how change management is a vital component in Coca-Cola’s overall strategic vision.
In today’s environment, organisational changes are constantly happening and have become a critical component in adapting to the constantly changing dynamics of the marketplace. Whatever your business, your goals remain the same.
If you want to succeed, stay innovative, anticipate the future and capitalise on opportunities as they emerge, then you need the tools to make decisions in real-time through Connected Planning. By aligning your internal teams and having the ability to see around corners, stay ahead of change and make better-informed decisions you can deliver successful change management at scale.
but don’t overthink
“Sometimes, communication is good,” says Colin, a 37-year-old marketer from London. He separated from his wife last summer, after 10 years of marriage. “But sometimes talking doesn’t sort stuff out. You just talk about the same things over and over again.”
When it comes to a big life change, at some point you will have to move from thinking into action – and dragging your feet on necessary change can create pointless pain. Colin advises anyone in a loveless marriage to end the relationship, rather than hoping things will improve on their own. “Counselling can’t make you love someone again … Life is too short, and there’s potentially someone else out there who’s a better fit for you. It’s a waste of everyone’s time and feelings to stay.”
6. Went to a bar:
“Another ‘said yes to going to the pub’ tale…
“In 1991, I was in Edinburgh walking home, and a friend from my previous job pulled up in his old yellow mini and said he was off to meet another friend from the same job. The other guy was in town with one of his pals to discuss a game (we were all RPG gamers), and I had nothing better to do, so I tagged along.
“Long story short, we started an RPG company and got bought by Wizards of the Coast, traveled the world, and then got our game back when they canned RPGs. Last year (about 20 years later), we did a Kickstarter that raised well over $100,000.
“The moral of this story is that if someone asks you if you want to go to the pub, the answer is yes.”
I did a lot of volunteering in my life. The main thing that I volunteered for is giving breakfast for kids. I really enjoyed it and I had a purpose, I wanted to help kids. Though I did some volunteering, I never thought of doing it abroad, maybe it’s time to try it? The more I think of it, the more advantages appears in my head. The experience in general seems to bring a lot of good things, the only disadvantage is that it seems very scary. The fact that you are going away from your family and in an unknown place with other languages seem very scary but I will face my fears and do it.
Choice 1 : Go for it.
Choice 2 : Stay home.
Good job. I think I made the right decision, Sweet Cafe is a great place for opportunities. My boss like me so much that I get upgraded to the cafe’s headquarter. I have no choice but accept the job.
Choice 1 : Accept the job offer.
3. Your Relationship with Food
One of the biggest decisions a modern person can choose to make in his or her life is the decision to see and experience food from a healthful perspective.
Each of us is a product of our culture – a time and place in history with its own peculiar customs. The ways of your time and place are – what has likely become – normal to you.
Of course, this normal is very much an illusion. The human body was wired millennia before the industrial blip in which we now live. Yet we still think of certain foods as “normal” for breakfast, “normal” for lunch, and “normal” for dinner.
But if you ask the human body, there’s nothing normal about any food that has earlier traveled down a factory conveyor belt (to become most of those products we find in conventional supermarkets).
Because our bodies say one thing and our culture says another, many of us grow up in a conflicted relationship with food.
Most of us in first-world countries just think of food as a welcomed distraction and a chance to experience salty or sweet fullness.
In reality, food is medicine. It’s meant to nourish, correct, and heal.
How you relate to food is among the most important of your life’s decisions.
Summary: How to Change Your Life for the Better
Learning how to change your life for the better is relatively simple. However, actually changing your life – and changing yourself – is much more challenging.
If you want to know how to change your life completely, here are 10 steps to follow:
- Decide in your heart to change your life, come hell or high water.
- Practice stepping out of your comfort zone and embracing discomfort.
- Identify the things in your life you want to change.
- Define how you want to transform your life.
- Identify every possible thing that could prevent you from changing your life.
- Choose one significant change or keystone habit to conquer.
- Set a SMART goal to help you stay on track.
- Help your future-self stick with the program by preparing for tough times.
- Get the people in your life on your side and find ways to manage difficult people.
- Think long-term, be patient, and focus on the process, not the results.
Finally, don't wait to get started – start now.
What changes in life do you want to make? Let us know in the comments below!
4. Make peace with your decision
It’s worthwhile to take some time to consider the potential outcomes of your choice.
But, here’s the problem. Often, we may think something will turn out one way, but the outcome is nothing like what we wanted or expected. You may have grand designs for your life, and they just don’t work out for whatever reason.
The opposite is true too. You may suffer a setback, or a plan might blow up that leads you in an entirely new direction that you didn’t know you wanted until you had it. Sometimes it might lead you to realize that what you thought you wanted isn’t actually what you wanted.
Instead of focusing on the potential outcome, focus on whether you can be okay with the decision.
Everyone has regrets about things they wish they would have done differently. You want to be as sure as you can that your decision is what you feel is best for your life based on the information you have at hand.
And if you don’t feel like you have enough useful information to make that decision, seek it out.
In 1997, the gargantuan media-services provider Netflix was born. Previously, the model offered customers monthly subscriptions to have movies posted to their door. This meant they avoided the late fees which traditional movie rental business imposed upon customers.
From the beginning, Netflix proved to be a disruptive organisation which has likely resulted in its capability to transform and adapt to the digital world. Streaming began in 2007 for the business and meant subscribers no longer needed to wait for DVDs to come through the mail.
Netflix successfully implemented change management to meet the needs of the consumers that would begin to watch content online. At one stage, it was at a crossroads, when its long-term sustainability was dependent on how it managed the change to a digital future.
After surviving a drop in subscription numbers and stock figures, Netflix subscribers grew from 23 million in 2011 to more than 137 million in 2018. So trusting their plan worked, as the business knew DVDs were on their way out and they needed to shift gears.
Focus on your future happiness
Big changes are not without pain. When the going gets tough, focus on your long-term happiness. Claudia knew that calling off her wedding was the right thing to do, because she didn’t want to find herself a decade down the line in an unhappy marriage. “I didn’t want to wake up one day and look at someone I care about and realise that we spent years making each other miserable,” she explains. “Life is too short, and it’s important to be happy.”
“It’s been really good for me,” says Bryan of her life change. “It’s done me the power of good to do something totally different with my life.” Mostly, she has learned that, if you are unhappy with your life, you have to take a leap of faith. “You can’t just sit there and think things will improve. You’re the only one who can make positive changes in your life. You have to go out and do it.”
Above all, be optimistic. You are much stronger than you think. “As humans, we are innately resilient,” says Pemberton. “A big change is bound to stretch our resilience at times. But, most of the time, we can cope with the demands upon us and recover quickly.” Embrace change. You’ve got this.
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