How To Touch Her Breasts For Maximum Pleasure


Not Everyone Loves Breast Play

Like any other sexual act, consent is important when it comes to breast play. Keep in mind that some people may not want you to play with their breasts. For some people, it’s a matter of personal preference; for others, it’s a gender identity issue. Trans and genderqueer folks may not want their breasts touched.

You can directly ask your partner what they feel comfortable with, or you can try slowly tracing your hand across their shoulders and collarbone area. If they tense up or move your hand away, move on to other parts of the body.

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3. Be a tease

Seriously. This isn’t a bad thing. “Kiss her entire breast, but ignore her nipples for a few minutes,” O’Reilly says. “Breathe over them provocatively, but don’t make any physical contact until her body is writhing. It may take some self-restraint on your part, but the build-up will be worth it when they tingle as she orgasms.”

8. Use different sensations

For women who aren’t as adventurous, a combination of hot and cold touches can be as arousing as clamps. “Use ice cubes—it’s almost painful, and that can be super hot for a lot of women,” Somoza says. “Different types of material can also be really pleasurable.” Think: silk and lace. 

Pay Attention to the Underboob and Sideboob

Most people tend to squeeze the entire boob, or focus on just the nipple. That’s a shame, because the underboob and sideboob can both be exquisitely sensitive. The areas I’m talking about are where her breast meets her ribcage. As the names imply, the underboob is the lower part of the breast, and the side boob is the outer edge (the side near her armpit).

This area tends to respond best to delicate touch. Very gently trace a fingertip along this sensitive curve. Start at the outer edge and slowly work your way around to the middle of her chest. You can also do this with your tongue, or with light kisses.

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How do you perform a breast massage?

It’s just as simple to practice a breast massage on yourself at home than it is to go to an Ayurvedic spa, if you’d feel more comfy at home.

Of course, it’s important to start in a mindful mental space, and then also find a quiet, peaceful physical space. It’s best to use a basic heated oil, like organic sunflower or sesame oil, Berman suggests. You should start with massaging each breast in a circular motion, moving from the nipple toward the outside of the breasts. It’s important to work on one breast at a time and without adding too much pressure, Bacharach adds, especially if you start to feel soreness.

Then, move to the armpit and outer edge of the breast, moving upward toward the shoulder joint to help detoxify the lymph nodes and unclog any ducts, says Berman. Give your collarbone, shoulder and neck some love on both sides before moving to the breastbone. Finish with a massage in the center of the breastbone, in a slow clockwise circle.

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At the end of the massage, Berman advises taking a hot shower or bath to allow the oil to absorb into your pores. You don’t need to use soap though, because the oil is meant to cleanse your skin, she says. Or, if you want to skip the shower, you can wrap yourself in a warm towel and relax for a bit—the oil will seep into your skin as you rest.

In general, it’s safe to practice breast massage, even if you’re breastfeeding. Just consult your doctor first if you have a condition that’s making breastfeeding painful or sore, Bacharach says. If you’ve recently had a mastectomy, it would be best to wait a couple of weeks before performing a breast massage, and then start gently, she suggests. (And talk to your doctor about touching the area, just to make sure you’re cleared to do so.)

But once your stitches are removed, breast massage can be a healing post-op practice. It’s a loving and relaxing self-care practice too. Ayurvedic breast massage is not intended to be sexual by nature, but getting in touch with your body is important, and getting pleasure from it only boosts the benefits, experts say.

Mara Santilli Mara is a freelance writer and editor specializing in culture, politics, wellness, and the intersection between them, whose print and digital work has appeared in Marie Claire, Women’s Health, Cosmopolitan, Airbnb Mag, Prevention, and more.

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