Should You Text A Guy After a First Date?


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Make Him All Hot And Bothered

These texts are made for men that you have already slept with; hopefully, this is your boyfriend or husband because they are pretty hot! However, if you want to tap into his brain and make him think about making love to you all day, tease him a little with these texts! Make him want you, oh so bad!

If you are ready to take the relationship from its

If you are ready to take the relationship from its current status to “sexy mama” status, try sending one of these messages or one that’s similar. You will surely get under his skin, and he won’t be able to get you off his mind! You will enter his every thought as he imagines you all pretty and waiting for him to come and make sweet love to you!

Show Him You Like Him

If you really want your crush to respond to your message, be sure you ask him a question at the end of your text. These sample messages definitely show a guy you care and want to be more than friends. You are asking about his day, showing you aren’t selfish; you are asking him out, showing you are interested in learning more about him. 

Too forward? Maybe. But, if he hasn’t pursued you and you feel like he needs to know the real you, it may be time to take matters into your own hands. This means putting yourself out there, showing him you aren’t afraid to speak up and show that you like him. 

Be sure to tailor the message to your crush’s status with you. In other words, if you and your man are merely flirting right now, saying, “Hey sexy!” might be appropriate. But, if you haven’t stepped outside of the friend zone yet, you may want to tone it down, at least until he shows he’s interested in you, too. You just don’t want to come across as being too needy.

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8. Do You Have A Hidden Agenda?

In general if you’re free of anxiety and expectations, sending him a quick text isn’t a problem. The issues come when you have a hidden agenda that’s actually motivating you to text him.

I get asked by woman all the time, “How can I keep a man’s interest?”.  And most of the time my answer is always the same. It’s not your job to entertain a man. You must show up as you.

Its your authenticity, confidence and effortless radiance that naturally captivates a man. Not something you force.

That’s not say that theres something wrong with learning how to be more flirty or learning how to text a man. There’s nothing wrong with that. It’s the intention and energy you put behind it. 

Worrying about keeping a guys interest most of the time comes down to a self worth issue. About having to be a certain way to keep a man. And if you’re constantly worried about this, it’s going to affect the relationship.

So before you send that text ask yourself what is the energy around this text? What’s really in my heart?

If you’re sending it just to send it. Texting him because you’re feeling insecure, hoping for his approval or some kind of validation from him.

Or if you know that you won’t be able to send the text without anxiously waiting for him to reply. Or obsessively checking your phone to see if he’s finally replied.

Then hold off on texting him, until you are in a good place emotionally and mentally. 

9. Is there a major event going on in their life?

    Reaching out to them to wish them luck on a big presentation they mentioned is a nice thing to do, and they’ll probably appreciate it. Even if you’ve only gone on a few dates, says Palmer, don’t hesitate to send them a quick note. It lets them know you’re thinking of them and keeps you fresh in their mind.


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    12. Is this a new relationship?

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      By the time you become official, says Palmer, you’ll have some sense of your S.O.’s texting preferences and they’ll have a pretty good idea of yours. So if you’d normally send them a few texts throughout the day, keep it going.

      “The way couples communicate is specific to the people in the relationship,” according to Palmer, “and every relationship is slightly different.” Some people might want to receive both good morning and good night texts even on days they see each other, and others might find all the texting overbearing. The safest bet is to do what feels right to you while considering what your partner would like to receive, too.

      And if you’re not sure, ask, says Palmer. Yeah, the question might sound weird, but relationships get weird sometimes. Try: “Hey, I sent you a few texts today and you were slow to respond. Were they distracting to you at work? Would you prefer if I kept my texts to the essentials?” Or: “Hey, I’d love to hear from you a little more during the day, just so I know I’m on your mind.”

      13. Have you recently fought?

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        Even if you’ve been in a relationship for a while, your best bet is to wait until the waters between you two have calmed. That way, you’ll both be more receptive to the other’s explanation for why each of you were hurt.

        Then there’s the matter of apologizing or addressing the argument from a distance. In these cases, a face-to-face conversation is your best bet because you have the added bonuses of body language to get your point across (not to mention, get a better read on their reaction), says Spector.

        But if you’re worried about the discussion escalating into another argument, Spector says texting is okay. Just choose your words carefully. That’s the beauty of a text… you can take your time to curate the perfect message.

        Her post-argument text formula? First, explain what made you upset, and then take ownership for your part in the argument, she says. Try something like this: “About that fight yesterday…I had a tough time with the joke you made. I didn’t think it was funny and it hurt my feelings. I’m sorry, though, for raising my voice.”

        He Went on Vacation and Hasn’t Texted Should You Worry?

        That all depends on where you are in your relationship, and what his response was when you asked him before he left.

        Let’s say you’ve only started dating, and you know that he’ll be decompressing on the beach. If he hasn’t texted you, chances are he’s turned his phone off. He’s doing yoga and swimming with dolphins and may just want the rest of the world to leave him alone for a while. And that’s absolutely okay (and understandable!).

        Also, try not to assume the worst of him. Just because he’s gone quiet doesn’t mean he’s shagging some other girl he met on the beach. He’s doing his own thing, and will get in touch when the time is right. Focus on yourself instead! Do things you enjoy, rather than stressing about what he may or may not be doing.

        Now, if you two have been dating exclusively for over a year, and he hasn’t texted you while he’s away, then there may be cause for a bit of worry. Has he said that he wanted you to reach out while he was gone? If that was the case, send him a text to check in on him. In all likelihood he’s just been in his own head, or he dropped his phone in the ocean or something.

        If after that you still haven’t heard from him, you can always call the hotel where he’s staying, just to check to see if he’s okay.

        Flirty Text Messages That Hell Simply Love

        So, what to text a guy to get his attention and flThe thing is that if you want to grab his attention, you must show interest too. However, you must be careful about it because you don’t want to look desperate.

        So, what to text a guy to get his attention and flirt with him in a not-so-obvious way? Here are some cute, flirty texts that will make him fall head over heels for you.

        1. So, I heard that a kiss can burn 6.4 calories per minute. You wanna work out?

        2. If you are having a bad day then don’t worry because your night will be awesome!

        3. On the agenda for tonight: polite conversation followed immediately by impolite bedroom antics.

        4. I promise to be by your side always, preferably under you or on top.

        5. Hope you’re rested, cause you’re gonna need every ounce of energy you can find tonight.

        6. What are you doing for dinner tonight? I thought about getting reservations for my bedroom but I wanted to make sure you were available.

        7. I just put on some really crazy underwear. So many snaps! So many straps! You’ll have to help me take it off.

        8. Can I have you for breakfast in bed today?

        9. I’ve got something to show you. It’s a surprise and you’re going to have to undress me to find it.

        10. I am not a photographer but I can still picture you and me together… in my bed.12. What do you want as a present? Today I am your11. Let’s do some ‘we shouldn’t be doing this’ things.

        12. What do you want as a present? Today I am your Santa and I will fulfill all your dreams!

        13. I hope your day is as nice as my butt.

        14. I can’t decide if the best part of my day is waking up next to you or going to sleep with you. Hurry home so I can compare the two again.

        15. You make me smile and also super horny but that’s not the point.

        16. See, I don’t like this, you’re too far away. If I could, I would be in your arms right now.

        17. It’s impossible to get any work done today because I can’t stop thinking about you.

        18. Hello there! Just thought that 3 p.m. was the best time to tell you how cute you are!

        19. I want to tell you what’s on my mind, but I can’t be fully exposed yet. When I’m comfortable, you will see a completely different person.

        20. Good morning baby. Just wanted to say I hope your day is amazing – but not as amazing as tonight is going to be.

        Part 2 – When you just started dating him

        5. Text him when it suits YOU

        A man needs space. Both during the dating phase, b

        A man needs space. Both during the dating phase, but also in a relationship.

        When a man doesn’t get this, he will tell you that he wants to take things slow.

        You can simply avoid this by continuing to do the things you did before you started seeing him.

        Don’t instantly change your life and stop doing your hobbies, hanging out with your friends, and other things you like just to be with him.

        I know it’s not always easy to take things slow when you really like a guy, but it is absolutely necessary for a good relationship.

        Make sure you stick to your own schedule, and that you only call/text/message him when it suits you.

        • Are you at work? Leave your mobile in your bag
        • Are you out with friends? Focus on them (and not on your phone)

        In other words, only contact him when it works for you. This will ensure that he will like you more and that you keep your boss and friends happy.

        6. Don’t text him just to chat with him

        Again, when you like each other it’s alluring to c

        Again, when you like each other it’s alluring to constantly exchange messages.

        He will like this (at the beginning), but a man may suddenly think:

        “Things are going too fast for me, I better end it before it gets worse.”

        So even when he likes that you contact him just to chat, at any given moment he will wonder whether this is what he wants.

        Then two things can happen:

        1. He will end things immediately.
        2. He says he wants to take it slow.

        Both are not good.

        So during the dating phase, avoid texting him just to chat.

        And now you might think?

        “But Tim, what should I text him then?”

        Simple: respond to him if he has sent you a message, or if you want to ask him out on a date.

        During the dating phase, you should communicate as men do: By a way of exchanging information.

        If you have been out on a date with him (it doesn’t matter whether it’s the first/second/x date) – you can text him to tell him you had a great time.

        But apart from that, you want to avoid sending him messages just to text.

        Because if you text him all the time you’re giving off the vibe that you have a lot of free time (not being busy), and don’t have cool things going for you in your life – and those are all very unattractive qualities that you don’t want him to think you have.

        7. If you don’t know what to send him, don’t send him anything

        Do you know your grandmother’s advice – when

        Do you know your grandmother’s advice – when you’ve got nothing good to say, don’t say anything?

        The same is true for texting when you are dating. If you don’t know what to send him, don’t send him anything.

        Men want clarity – especially when you just started seeing each other.

        So remember, when you think: “what should I text him?” – Then don’t send him anything.

        8. Why there is no reason to panic when you haven’t heard from him for two or three days

        Suppose a guy texts you every day, and then sudden

        Suppose a guy texts you every day, and then suddenly you don’t hear anything from him for two days. Normally, this doesn’t mean anything.

        So just relax because there is no reason at all to become insecure or to panic.

        He is probably just busy.

        Or something important has happened in his life and he’s just focused on other things.

        The absolute worst thing you can do is to send him another message, asking him why he’s not responding. Then you’re pretty much done and can forget about seeing him.

        There could be plenty of reasons why he hasn’t responded to you for a few days

        And if you then send him a message like:

        “Hey, why are you not responding?”

        He will think:

        “Great. If she is already this needy while we are just dating and immediately panics when I don’t contact her for a few days, what would it be like when we are in a relationship?”

        Because a man assumes that a woman hides her bad habits and needy characteristics as much as possible during the dating phase (this is what he has learned from his previous relationships).

        So just let relax, focus on other things in your life, and wait patiently.

        9. Do you really want to contact him?

        I recently talked about this with a friend of mine

        I recently talked about this with a friend of mine, she told me that the guy she was dating for a while suddenly stopped responding to her.

        Then I asked her?

        Do you genuinely like him?

        She said:

        Well… not really…

        So I will give you the same advice I gave her.

        Because suppose you don’t really like him that much, then why are you asking yourself whether you should text him or not?

        It is kind of crazy when you think about it…

        Because some women completely panic when they haven’t heard from a guy for a few days, even when they don’t really like him.

        As a result, they want this guy even more and will just try harder to get him.

        Purely because he hasn’t been in touch for a while.

        Do you get it?

        So when he has been silent for some time, you must first ask yourself whether you really like him or not.

        If that is not the case, you don’t have to worry about whether you should text him or not. The best thing you can do in this case is to move on with your life.

        It’s like a sign that you can now focus your time on someone you actually like.


        Jorge Vamos (author) on May 22, 2018:

        Self conscious:

        I wouldn't think texting would be a bother, since he can just answer when he wants, right? Probably you can just avoid calling him or showing up all of a sudden without texting him first to confirm a specific time.

        self concious on May 20, 2018:

        i usually text first, but the other day we had a very deep conversation about like and he said his biggest pet peeve was being bothered so he likes to keep to himself. i dont know what to do know. just keep texting first?

        Cupcake on February 24, 2018:

        I usually text first then he takes like 2 hours to text me back! So I’ll wait 5mins then text him back then the conversation usually a there. Or I’ll text back right away and still get the same results!!

        dashingscorpio from Chicago on August 30, 2017:

        Great advice!

        "Should you text him first? He hasn't contacted you yet, so texting him would seem desperate, right? You don't want to seem desperate, of course."

        Women will never be equal to men in the dating world until they stop worrying about what (men) think.

        If you can't "be yourself" you're with the wrong person!

        "Hey, I just wanted to say that I had a good time tonight and I hope we can do it again." – Perfect first text!

        The only other advice I give to people is don't become overly emotionally invested after a single date.

        Dating is much like an employer looking to fill a position.

        Until you have agreed to have an "exclusive relationship" with someone you should be keeping your options open by dating/interviewing (multiple candidates).

        One of the reasons why people are so hung up on terms like "ghosting", "benching", and "breadcrumbing" is because they emotionally invest in people too quickly.

        They're choosing to be a passenger instead of a driver. Too many people spend their time being/thinking like sellers and not buyers.

        Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.

        Each of us has our mate selection process & "must haves" list.

        Each of us has our own boundaries and "deal breakers".

        Last but not least an early rejection saves everyone time. Ultimately a rejection simply means: NEXT!

        Thankfully there are over (7 Billion) other people on earth.