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I’ve Seen How Important Friendships Are in My Own Life

Ever since I was a young girl, I have been fortunate enough to be surrounded by the best girl crews ever. 

Additionally, I grew up with a front-row seat watching my mom and her gals pals write the book on how to be great girlfriends.

I watched them love, support, and encourage each other through all of life’s ups and downs. 

For years, I watched them be there for each other with no expectation of anything in return. Because of my mom and her friends, I have been able to develop and maintain lasting friendships of my own. 

And because of that, I’ve been able to experience the reasons why friendship is important in life. It goes far beyond moral support and encouragement. 

In fact, having good friends can positively affect almost every area in our lives.

Let’s look at a few…



Silver or Gold? No Need to Choose

Throughout life, I’ve lived my friendship life by the lyrics of another (friend) song that I learned as a Daisy Girl Scout:  

Make new friends, but keep the old.

One is silver, the other is gold.

A circle is round, it has no end.

That’s how long, I will be your friend.

A fire burns bright, it warms the heart.

We’ve been friends, from the very start.

What do you like most about your best friend?

Out of all the reasons I love my best friend, which rang the loudest for you? What do you like most about your best friend? I would love to hear.

I think everyone will have a different answer and this makes sense because relationships are so unique.

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Tips for being more friendly and social (even if youre shy)

If you are introverted or shy, it can feel uncomfortable to put yourself out there socially. But you don’t have to be naturally outgoing or the life of the party to make new friends.

Focus on others, not yourself. The key to connecting to other people is by showing interest in them. When you’re truly interested in someone else’s thoughts, feelings, experiences, and opinions, it shows—and they’ll like you for it. You’ll make far more friends by showing your interest rather than trying to get people interested in you. If you’re not genuinely curious about the other person, then stop trying to connect.

[Read: Dealing with Loneliness and Shyness]

Pay attention. Switch off your smartphone, avoid other distractions, and make an effort to truly listen to the other person. By paying close attention to what they say, do, and how they interact, you’ll quickly get to know them. Small efforts go a long way, such as remembering someone’s preferences, the stories they’ve told you, and what’s going on in their life.

Evaluating interest

Friendship takes two, so it’s important to evaluate whether the other person is looking for new friends.

  • Do they ask you questions about you, as if they’d like to get to know you better?
  • Do they tell you things about themselves beyond surface small talk?
  • Do they give you their full attention when you see them?
  • Does the other person seem interested in exchanging contact information or making specific plans to get together?

If you can’t answer “yes” to these questions, the person may not be the best candidate for friendship now, even if they genuinely like you. There are many possible reasons why not, so don’t take it personally!

Why is your best friend so special?

A best friend is so special because they stay by your side through thick and thin. They know all of your secrets, have seen you at your worst, forgiven you for your mistakes, and STILL show up the next morning.

A best friend is so special because you have time invested in your relationship. They understand your history, know all about your family, adore your quirky habits, and want to still love you forever. That person is a keeper!

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For better friendships, be a better friend yoursel

For better friendships, be a better friend yourself

Making a new friend is just the beginning of the journey. Friendships take time to form and even more time to deepen, so you need to nurture that new connection.

Be the friend that you would like to have. Treat your friend just as you want them to treat you. Be reliable, thoughtful, trustworthy, and willing to share yourself and your time.

Be a good listener. Be prepared to listen to and support friends just as you want them to listen to and support you.

Give your friend space. Don’t be too clingy or needy. Everyone needs space to be alone or spend time with other people as well.

Don’t set too many rules and expectations. Instead, allow your friendship to evolve naturally. You’re both unique individuals so your friendship probably won’t develop exactly as you expect.

Be forgiving. No one is perfect and every friend will make mistakes. No friendship develops smoothly so when there’s a bump in the road, try to find a way to overcome the problem and move on. It will often deepen the bond between you.